Feeling anxious, ghosted, or burned out from job hunting? You’re not alone. I just spoke to Branden, a laid-off professional who wanted help with his job search. He was exasperated with his lack of success in a tough job market. He began, “I’m doing something wrong. I’ve got good experience, and getting a good job has never been a problem until now. I have applied to dozens of positions, but nothing has happened. There are fewer openings, and lots of competition for the jobs I apply for. I’m getting nowhere.” He sounded defeated, saying, ‘I’m just throwing my hands up, asking myself, what do I need to do to get a new job?”
Most job hunters can relate. They complain about how hard it is to get hired right now. GenZ, Millennials, Xers, and even Boomers report that the search hasn’t yielded a job offer. And the emotional toll and anxiety keep mounting up: discouragement, depression, and a reluctance to even try anymore. They feel like they must be doing something wrong or, worse, something is wrong with them.
So, how can you cope? How can you turn this disappointing situation around when resilience and motivation are in short supply?
The Emotional Rollercoaster
You need to acknowledge your feelings. Job hunting today is far more emotionally taxing and stressful. It is taking its toll as job hunters face longer hiring timelines, fewer job openings, fewer responses, and more competition, which erodes confidence and adds to the emotional toll.. They are submitting so many applications that go into a black hole.
This is demoralizing, leaving you feeling stuck, overlooked, or wondering, “What’s wrong with me?” It’s easy to say it’s not you; it’s the ATS system. But repeated rejection — or worse, silence — can take a serious emotional toll, leaving you anxious and discouraged to the point you stop looking. It wears away at your confidence, chips at your motivation, and impacts your sense of self-worth.
These feelings are normal. You can’t avoid them; it’s a sign that you’re human and care about your career. You do have control over how you reassess yourself, change what you think, and reframe your actions.
There is HOPE
Emily was a computer science major and career counseling client, and her entire family was surprised when she hadn’t landed a job right out of college. Twelve months later, she is still not working. She was struggling to cope with this overwhelming situation. To help her turn this around, we needed to change her thinking and job search strategies, and that ultimately changed the outcome.
There is no magic bullet, but changing your approach can rebuild your resilience and determination and turn this around. Emily did things differently and got the desired results — she recently landed a good job. With the right strategies and mindset shift, this could be your story too.
You can make these changes, implement these strategies, and be on the road to success sooner rather than later.
Beef up your resume
As you examine several openings, review your background. Highlight the key duties and experience the employers are asking for. Does your resume demonstrate you have the desired skills they want? Mastering a new skill would be an excellent use of your time while job hunting.
Read my Forbes.com article to uncover what employers are looking for. Top In-Demand Skills Employers Want In 2025—And How To Learn Them Fast (Without Spending A Fortune)
Consider volunteering
Experience is experience, whether it’s paid or not. Carolyn was a career counseling client who took this advice to heart. She helped market a nonprofit’s upcoming fundraising auction, implemented new ideas, and created an email campaign that sold more tickets than ever before. She stressed that the nonprofit use storytelling to encourage donors to be more generous. The event was a big success.
As a result, Carolyn got an excellent reference for her volunteer work, which she added to her resume. The big plus was when the executive director passed her resume on to another colleague with a glowing endorsement that led to her landing a great new job.
Set a schedule
Spending endless hours applying for jobs will not improve your results. It’s not the quantity of applications you make; it’s the quality of the application. You need to be the right fit with the desired background – that approach is what is more effective.
The number of hours you sit in front of the computer searching for a job can add to your discouragement, so set appropriate limits. If you’re not working, 15-20 is ideal since anything more is just spinning your wheels and adding to the emotional toll.
If you already have a job, cherry-pick. Spend 3-5 hours a week only applying to positions where you are an excellent fit for the organization and where you’d love to work.
Network strategically
Half of your job search time needs to be spent networking, reaching out to former bosses, coworkers, friends, and those you get referred to. Networking will help you hear about openings, learn about a company culture, and get valuable insider information.
Change your mindset
We want to counteract the negative emotions surrounding the job hunt. So, take on a personal project where you see a positive result. With so much out of your control, being able to start and finish a project helps your frame of mind. For example, plant a garden, or paint a room where you will see the transformation. Clean out the closet or the garage, cook a new recipe — anything where you see a completed result. That helps improve your mindset, then reframe your thinking to envision yourself succeeding in the job search, knowing that you will get a job soon.
Get professional help
If you are not getting any responses, your resume may be the problem. Get expert assistance to write the best one possible. Focus on highlighting your results and accomplishments. That is what employers hire for – your results.
Are your interviews not going well? Concentrate on interview preparation and role-playing. Be sure to develop good answers to tricky situational questions.
Is your LinkedIn profile impressive? It should be. Employers scan LinkedIn daily for new talent or review an applicant before making a job offer. You want to put your best foot forward.
To improve your Profile, my article will be quite helpful: How To Create A Compelling LinkedIn Profile That Attracts Recruiters.