Much has been saidāand continues to be saidāabout the issues facing women in the workplace.
While struggling with pay inequity, harassment, and work-life balance, many women still lament the metaphorical glass ceiling. Thatās the invisible barrier preventing a given demographic (often understood to be females) from rising beyond a certain level in a hierarchy.
Prize-winning filmmaker Ava DuVernay believes that focus is counterproductive. āIgnore the class ceiling and do your work,ā she says. āIf youāre focusing on the glass ceiling, focusing on what you donāt have, focusing on the limitations, then you will be limited.ā
Thatās reminiscent of Shirley Chisholm, the first Black woman to serve in the U.S. Congress. āWe must reject not only the stereotypes that others hold of us,ā she said, ābut also the stereotypes we hold of ourselves.ā
And then there was British prime minister Margaret Thatcher who famously said, āBeing a leader is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you arenāt.ā
Bestselling author Jocelyn Davis is a strong woman who adds thoughtful insight to the conversation. Sheās the former head of R&D for a global leadership development consultancy and a respected researcher and commentator on social behaviors. Her latest book is Insubordinate: 12 New Archetypes for Women Who Lead.
āInsubordinateā is certainly a provocative word for a book title. So I asked Davis what message she intends to convey with that title.
āI want to say to women that we donāt have to be constrained by work structures and customs that were designed largely by and for men,ā she says. āMore important, we donāt have to be constrained by our own habits, fears, and limitations. The key message of Insubordinate is that womenās greatest strength is our range: our ability to tap into a wide variety of leadership approachesāor archetypes, as I call themāsome of which will be comfortable, others a stretch, but all of which are available to us. Weāre often told to ālean in,ā and thatās fine. But I think ābreak freeā is a better mantra.ā
In her new book, Davis presents 12 timeless female archetypes. She reimagines the archetypes with stories of literary and everyday women who fought, cajoled, commanded, schemed, or blasted their way free of the restrictions that bound them.
Clearly, self-awareness plays in a leaderās success. In the modern workplace, self-awareness is arguably especially important for women.
āWhen youāre aware of your strengths, you can play to them rather than wasting time struggling to shore up your weaknesses,ā Davis says. āThis is true for us all, but women, especially, tend to downplay their strengths or donāt even realize they are strengths.ā
To illustrate, Davis points to her Escapist archetype. āThis is the person who has a nose for danger and sees discretion as the better part of valor. Sheās wily; she knows how to dodge trouble, and she knows when to walk away. Now, most people wouldnāt regard that as a leadership strength, but it absolutely can be.ā
Davis tells the story of Pam, an executive who quietly, cleverly kept herself and her team safe during a corporate bloodbath. āPam knew she had Escapist magic,ā Davis says, āand she knew how to use it.ā
In todayās workplace, what are some of the challenges faced by women leaders that are different from those faced by their male counterparts?
āThe biggest is the tightrope dilemma, Davis says. āWomen must walk a slim line between competence and likability. Research shows that a man perceived as competent tends to be perceived also as likable, while the opposite holds for women: the more competent we seem, the less likable we seem, and the more likable, the less competent. A very competent woman who is open about her ambitions is especially apt to be disliked.ā
So, Davis says, women walk the tightrope: āWe smile, empathize, tout our teamās accomplishments over ours, and soften our requests, while at the same time striving to project skill and authority. Many of us do manage to keep our balance; itās not impossible. But it is exhausting.ā
Davis writes about twelve archetypes for woman who lead. How, one might wonder, did she settle on those particular twelve?
āThe 12 archetypes are based on the four classical elementsāfire, water, earth, airāeach of which has a set of associations based in art, literature, and spiritual traditions.
- Fire: hot, direct, bright, external.
- Water: cool, indirect, dark, internal.
- Earth: down, steady, emotional, practical.
- Air: up, mercurial, intellectual, abstract.
āCombined,ā Davis says, āthese elements give us the full scope of leadership styles and strategies. Women leaders are usually advised to be hard-charging Amazons or collaborative Empaths, or to walk the tightrope and try to be both at once. But if we look to legendary and real-life women with the four elements in mind, weāll see thereās a much wider array of archetypes we can draw uponāfrom the Claimant to the Snow Queen, from the Amiga to the Witch.ā
Thereās no doubt this is a fresh way to look at human performance. But how does an understanding of archetypes help women perceive and appreciate their own strengths as well as those of other women?
āWhen we have the language to talk about a range of types, it makes it easier to recognize them,ā Davis says. āWhen, for example, we run across a woman like my former colleague Amandaāa sales executive who was ambitious, insistent, and good at compartmentalizingārather than think, āOh, sheās so bossyā or āSheās just out for herself,ā we can think, āAha! Sheās the Empress.ā We can understand the fuller story that makes her successful. We can also recognize a wider variety of leadership qualities: the cool analysis of the Snow Queen, the warm charm of the Temptress, the sharp wit of the Jesteress.ā
Davis says women are especially apt to tear down other women, especially those they see as different from themselves. āWeād do better, I think, to dial back on the snark and side-eye and dial up on the appreciation and learning.ā
Can this book be helpful to men in the workplace (or any place)?
āI donāt care what gender you are, because this isnāt about identifying as a woman,ā Davis says. āItās about identifying with womenālooking to women and their achievements, centering womenās stories, being inspired by womenās struggles and adventures.ā
Davis says that for thousands of years of human history, examples of leadership have been almost entirely male. She wants to bring female examples to the fore and showcase female abilities.
āWomenās most overlooked strength is our range,ā she says. āWe are shapeshifters, multitaskers, jacks (or Jacquelines) of all trades. Men tend to lead by setting their sights on a goal and pursuing it in one dimension, forward and upward, counting on their unique talents to carry them along their heroās journey. Itās a perfectly effective and efficient approach: James Bond never has to be Dirty Harry for the weekend. Women, in contrast, donāt have the luxury to operate in one dimension, nor should we even try. We lead by expanding our repertoireāby becoming the opera diva equally brilliant in the role of gentle Madama Butterfly, warlike Brünnhilde, proud Isolde, or vivacious Carmen. This expansion, both outward and inward, is the heroineās journey. Itās how women grow, and itās how we lead.ā
Women have certainly made advances in the workplace in recent years. Yet studies show they are still dramatically underrepresented in leadership roles.
Even though some cultural elements clearly place women at a disadvantage, there are some forces in todayās society that are viewed by many as hell bent on emasculating men. How can women advance their own causes without engaging in zero-sum, us-against-them behaviors?
āI can see how it might look that way,ā Davis says. āMen are accustomed to winning most of the prizes, so when a woman wins a prize instead of them it can feel like a zero-sum game, and a rigged game at that. Women are indeed getting more opportunities nowadays. Should we turn down opportunities, though, lest we upset the men? That wonāt help anyone.ā
Davis says the real issue isnāt that men are being emasculated. Itās that men can no longer lead and succeed simply by showing up and being male.
āMore is expected,ā she says. āLike women, men would do well to expand their repertoireāwhich doesnāt mean ābe more feminine,ā but rather ābe a better, fuller human in your own unique way.ā Thereās inspiration to be taken from many cultures and walks of life. Organizations, I believe, should be doing a better job of presenting these diverse examples of leadership and helping everybody learn from them.ā

